"Rejoice with those who rejoice." I have found that difficult too often. I was much better at weeping with those who weep.
-Marilynne Robinson, Gilead
This quote is from one of my favorite book. Gilead by Marilynne Robinson is chalked full of so much wisdom.
We live in a world where if someone is not for something, then they areagainst it and that is just not true. I'm a pretty easygoing guy and there are some causes that do not affect me in the same way that they affect others. Listen to this and know it to be true: is it okay for people to have other beliefs than you. It does not mean they are trying to sabotage your cause or that they are even against it. Now there are some scenarios where most likely everyone should be for something. For example, basic human rights. That should be across the board. That's pretty reasonable, right?
When we as people begin to choose sides so drastically like I stated above it means there are going to be people who weep. There will be sadness. There will be violence. This issue is too complex to sort out in one blog post. Frankly, I don't think it will ever be sorted out.
I'll leave you with this, do what the quote says: weep with those who weep. When I read this quote I imagine a man sitting on a sidewalk. It's dark outside and night has fallen. On his face are tears and in the tears the reflection of red and blue police lights. While he is sitting there, a person sits down next to him and puts their arm around him not offering any advice but just sitting.
Come alongside one another. It's okay if they don't believe in the same thing as you. Hurt is universal. There is nothing good about people dying in the streets, regardless of who they are. Give up your fucking opinions for one second and take a seat next to the person who is going to wake up the next day with their entire world flipped upside down. Don't console them, they don't need to be distracted. To move forward it is necessary to feel every inch of the pain as it pierces your body. But while moving forward, sometimes the pain become more bearable when you have someone bleeding alongside you.